I am pretty proud of my own vagina and its related gifts, as any woman should be. But really, why is it even on the collective radar? Not mine, specifically, but vaginas and what you do to/with them in general. Thanks to The Blogess for posting this article about the ChildFree movement and how it shouldn't even be a thing. Meaning, a person's choice whether to even get pregnant (not even end a pregnancy) is so far off the radar, there shouldn't even be a name for it. It need not register at all, much less have enough attention paid to it that there's enough people for a movement. I know I've written about it before, but besides prospective grandparents, who's business is it if others procreate? Personally, I don't want kids. Never have. I have been, as my best friend puts it, fixed but not declawed. I figured that would be the end of the story unless I'm telling someone about the Essure procedure, talking through my decision with a partner, or getting an abdominal x-ray.
To answer some of the accusations from those who are not opposed to being a parent, yes. It is a sort of selfishness to not have children. As is the impulse to have them, or even impress your own biological needs onto someone else. The thing is, it's an impulse we're all allowed to have; you in your way, me in mine. My keeping my uterus as strictly ornamental instead of functional has no bearing on my ability to do my job, be a friend, a girlfriend, or even an upstanding citizen of the United States. (Though, in a case of reverse discrimination, really you'd think I'd be the better candidate for a job seeing as how I won't be taking maternity leave, or driving up the cost of insurance premiums.)
Personally, I have more than just a lack of maternal instincts to procreate. I have some very unflattering and strong opinions of the process post-orgasm. I can't say that I'd be patient with other parents. I have no interest in navigating today's school systems. But, mostly, it's the fact that I've had some bumps along the way that make my body unfit to carry a baby to term without constant medical supervision or intervention.
In short, I agree with Dr Seuss when he said about children; "You have 'em; I'll entertain 'em.".