January 14, 2011

Reactions to Men as a Ball & Chain

First of all, didn't we talk about this already?!

I'm all for being self-sufficient, not needing but wanting a mate, and throwing your typical gender roles out the window. But, I'm not sure what I feel about the idea of men seemingly being left by the wayside. After seeing the short version of the below TEDTalk on CNN, I went looking for the full version. Here is it below. Go head. Take a look. I'll wait.

Let me say that if you hadn't noticed, I love men. I'm a little sketchy on most women. Call it reverse snobbery, but I think having the parts gives me rights to criticize. Those feelings aside, I don't think I'd want to live in a world without men, or has men in a reduced capacity. There are just some things that men do better than women, and I don't think it's wise to suppress that. (Bear in mind I'm speaking in generalities. We're all unique flowers and all that rot.)

I can't argue the science in her talk as I haven't done the research. Consider this an OpEd post. Let's start with her saying that the ideal management style has changed. Well, this may be so. However, in a successful economy you can't worry about everyone getting along all the time. While benefits like Employee Assistance Programs, and bosses that understand your feeeeeeelings are nice, it's not going to get a whole lot done. Men have no problem with telling you what's up in a very direct way. They understand that you can nearly come to blows over something and still grab a beer after work. Call it short attentions span if you must, I call it knowing the separation between a person and a situation. One thing I learned in college is that, as a grown up, you need to develop a thicker skin. You have to be able to take a punch to the ego and not hold a grudge.

Another thing is that I might be completely capable of standing on my own, being independent, and having my own life outside of a man. However, I don't like the idea that in the future this will be the norm and that to have a mate will be seen as a burden. Uh uh. I don't like that thought one bit. Just because I CAN do the above doesn't mean I WANT to. Maybe I'm an odd duck, but I want an equal, not a dependent. If that's what I was after, I'd have kids.

What I'm really getting at here is this. I didn't like the idea of a completely male-dominated society before. I don't like the idea of having a female-dominated society now. I get that there are those among us with the attitude of "'bout damn time!" And I worry that once given the reins, it's going to be like they've got to make up for lost time. Which solves nothing. What I'd like to see is a truly equal division of power where we acknowledge the strengths and weaknesses of each gender, but have room for exceptions. Yeah yeah, I know it sound very Star Trek, but a girl can dream, right?

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